One With Your Child

Peace in a Busy Unpredictable LifeOne With Your Child

One of the most fulfilling aspects of parenting is being so connected with your child that you are one.  For better or worse in your parenting experience and in your child’s experience, you empathize, love, forgive, and rejoice with each other.  When I say “one”, I mean that you and your child are relating with each other with unconditional love and godly acceptance.  That you are so connected that it reminds you of the days when you were pregnant and were truly one.

The other day at dinner my son did something I considered very silly.  It was so silly I almost reprimanded him for it.  He took one of his orange slices, put it in his mouth and smiled with the peel showing.  It was a great big wacky orange smile at our serious dinner table.  His giggling was so contagious that his younger sister put on her orange smile, too.  I told my kids to eat their oranges properly, not wanting to encourage this behavior that was probably a hit at the school lunch table.

Yesterday I was snacking on orange slices.  I remembered my son’s orange smile.  It was something I had never done and could not see why someone would ever do it.  Admittedly, my son and I don’t have the same sense of humor.  What would I have in common with a 10 year old boy?

It has been my prayer this week that my family and I are one (John 17:21).  I long for them, specifically my kids, to know that they are unconditionally loved, as well as to be connected and loved by my family.  I long for a spiritual maturity and discipleship in myself and my family that would glorify God.  I know it will mean change, pruning, suffering even, because we’ve got a long way to go.

I wondered what it would look like for our family to be one.   Playing together, reading together, holding hands, singing, praying together, laughing together.  Wouldn’t it be fun to laugh together right now and show my son I loved him unconditionally?

orange smile2So even though it was not my style, I went to check on my son who was dutifully practicing piano.  He was feeling discouraged about his ability to learn piano as quickly as he hoped.  I was eager for him to finish the piece he was playing and look up at me.  I could barely contain myself.  When his eyes met mine, I nodded approvingly and flashed him my great big wacky orange smile.  He burst out laughing.  I felt satisfied and connected, like we were one.

In my acceptance and appreciation of my son, I recognized that I had an opportunity to step into the life of my child and take his hand and follow him into childhood joy.  My orange smile left such an impression on him that he even mentioned it this morning when we were getting ready for school.

Having an orange smile is not what I would call the highest and best experience of being one with your child.  But it was a simple way to connect, to share a laugh and say I love you.  Children need your love and guidance.  Children also need to learn that we are called to a high standard of living and being.  Teach them to love and be led to reach their full potential.

When have you felt that you and your child were one?  Leave a comment below and share this article with your friends.  I wish you much love and oneness as you continue to grow as a person and as a parent.

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The Mommy Advantage Hit #1 Last October

The Mommy AdvantageThe Mommy Advantage Hit #1 Last October

October 1, 2013 was the day my book, The Mommy Advantage: How Having Kids Can Make You Happier, Healthier, and Wealthier, became a #1 best seller on Amazon.com. It was a very exciting and successful day that was the culmination of many people’s efforts.  On the anniversary of that special time, I wanted to share with you some very private, behind the scenes sneak peeks of my personal journey.

There were three great aspects of my book launch experience and best seller campaign that I want to mention so that whenever you are setting, reaching, or celebrating your goal, you keep these in sight and reflect on them often.  I pray that they will bring you great joy, success, and meaning in your creative work.

1. Faith

I was convicted to teach parenting and empathy many years ago when my grandfather had just died and my father was in ICU with a stroke. My family, my church, my friends had all been encouraging and sympathetic, but only in a free community parenting class (offering free childcare for my toddler) with people I had only seen a time or two did I feel deeply understood. I decided to write a book, and even put #1 Best Seller on my vision board. I put it all in God’s hands. He had put it on my heart in the first place.

2. Focus

2013 was as busy a year as any. Coaching clients, growing my business, raising kids, managing my household, and launching a book. It was a bit of a blur, requiring/mandating/necessitating focus to pull everything together. I had to be focused in order for it all to work. There were times when I wanted to stop. My father died earlier in the year with my mom and me at his bedside. The Mommy Advantage was supposed to be launched closer to Mother’s Day in May. It was too much for me, so we postponed to October 1. I was able to focus on what was important at the right times and keep going so I could cross the finish line.

3. Family

Sherlyn Luedtke The Mommy AdvantageThank you to my husband, to my kids, to my mom and grandma who supported me and were so proud of me. I am so grateful for my extended family who participated in the launch along with me. I greatly appreciate my professional family: mentors, colleagues, and joint venture partners who contributed bonus gifts and sent out emails for The Mommy Advantage book launch around the world. Thank you to everyone who bought the book.  I had woken up at 3:00 am in anticipation.  My mom and grandma spent the day with me as we watched the book climb the best seller charts until it hit #1.  Thank you, Heavenly Father, for granting this desire.  It was surreal. It was a milestone. It was a dream come true. It was a blessing. And my family was there to share it with me, in person and virtually.

You might be wanting to do something bold. You might be in the middle of your leap of faith. If you are wondering whether or not you are going to be successful, remember to “Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and He will establish your plans.” (Proverbs 16:3) Go for it!

Please comment below and share what encourages you most as you go for your big goals and dreams.  I wish you all the best as you live out the divine mission you have been given.

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The Best Day of Your Life

Happy Morning RoutineThe Best Day of Your Life

This morning the thought came to me that today was the best day of my life.  It really surprised me.  Today?  Really?  There was nothing special about today.  I started questioning how this average day in my life could be the best day of my life.  Then I realized that every day has that potential.  Here are four tips to make today an amazing day, if not the best day of your life.

1.  Begin Each Day With Gratitude.

Focus on what you are grateful for in your life.  We have so much to be grateful for, but there are times when moms get so busy that this important step gets overlooked.  Do not rob yourself of this extremely important practice.  When I woke up this morning, I praised God for sending Jesus Christ to resolve the sin problem so He sees me as perfect forever (Hebrews 10:14).  The first thing that came to my mind was that this was the best day of my life.  The feeling of anticipation and joy over what God had in store for me today was overwhelming.  Could today really be the best day of my life?  Why not?

2.  Bless Your Kids Before They Wake Up.

I was filled with deep love and appreciation for my children.  They were still sleeping.  I had written in my #1 best selling book, The Mommy Advantage, how easy it can be to reflect on what a great blessing our kids are when they are sleeping.  It is more challenging to do that when they are squabbling and wreaking havoc.  This morning was one of those blissful moments where I gazed lovingly at my sweet kids.  I prayed for them and blessed them.  I enjoyed this addition to a happy morning routine for kids.  This could be the best day of their lives.

3.  Embrace Your Work.

Working is an expression of your creative talents.  It is an opportunity to make a powerful impact on those around you.  My day included private coaching appointments.  I love my clients!  They are a delight, and their beautiful contribution to their families and to the world brings me to tears.  It is such an honor to be a mirror to their greatness and reflect back and clarify their message and gifts.  Working one on one with clients fills me up because without them, I wouldn’t get to fulfill my life purpose.  Thank you!

4.  Remember That Every Day Is A Gift.

Do not squander it.  It is precious.  You are never guaranteed to wake up in the morning.  Today is the only day we have in this present moment.  The past is in the past.  I have many wonderful memories like (not in any particular order) the day my kids were born, the day I graduated summa cum laude, the day I married my husband, the day I was baptized, and more.  But they are in the past.  And the future is yet to come.  Today is all I have.  So it is the best day of my life.

May you and your family have an amazing day – today and always.  Comment below and let me know how you day goes.

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Motherhood is a Crucible

Motherhood is a CrucibleMotherhood is a Crucible

I am so grateful that we finally had a break in the weather.  It was 100-110 degrees recently.  And today it was 90 degrees.  Woohoo!  Enduring 100+ degree heat made sitting in 90 degrees seem so much cooler, even a pleasure.

That’s how it is with being a mom and having the Mommy Advantage.  You can experience the intensity of being a mom:  juggling children, relationships, household, money, mission, and more.  It will seem hot, intense, and exhausting but in the heat of that experience, you grow and expand.  You learn how to handle your life because your little ones are counting on you to do so.  So you do it.  It’s not always pretty with a bow on top, but it gets done.  And you realize you CAN do it.  Those intense experiences of motherhood are exactly what equip you to handle regular challenges as if they were nothing.

Today make it a point to remember your Mommy Advantage and appreciate all the stressors, I mean blessings in disguise, that you are getting as a result of raising your kids while simultaneously going after your goals and dreams.  Yes, it’s a lot of pressure.  I call it a crucible.

As I say in my #1 best selling book, The Mommy Advantage:  How Having Kids Can Make You Happier, Healther and Wealthier, motherhood is not a shortcut.  It’s a crucible.  When we learn to enjoy and be grateful for that crucible, for all that pressure and heat and intensity that we experience on a regular basis because we are mothers, probably more often than we’d like, then it makes regular, every day challenges so much easier.  Learn to smile in the fray, appreciate what you have, depend on God, and enjoy the growth that the difficult times give you.

Please let us know if you’ve experienced the Mommy Advantage crucible before.  Comment below and share your experience or advice.  Until next time, I wish you all the best in your journey.

 

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Empty Nest and Motherhood – A Mom's Wake Up Call

My up close and personal encounter with an empty nest.  Watch the video to see what I learned from it about parenting.

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Your Valentine's Day To Do List

Valentines ListI wanted to share a list of important activities for today!

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Three Keys to Managing Your Busy, Unpredictable Life

Three Keys to Managing Your Busy, Unpredictable LifeThe week was very unusual.  My daughter was sick and missed four days of school.  My grandma had a fall and was (is) needing care and company.  I had a full schedule including a book signing event, coaching clients, and hosting teleseminars.  I know I am not alone in my busy life, with more and more women being responsible for caring for their kids, helping out their parents, and supporting their own household financially and organizationally.

While the busyness ebbs and flows, I am grateful to have peace.  The primary factors that keep things afloat and at ease during busy, unpredictable times are these three foundational aspects of my life.

  1. God
    My life is an exercise of trust that I am loved, provided for abundantly, and of great worth.  All I have to do is yield to the perfect will of God in my life.  Even though things don’t turn out the way I expect, I know that there is divine order in my world.  This is especially true when I make mistakes.  Popular positive psychology offers great tools to use for setting goals, making changes in life, and shifting beliefs.  My ultimate resource is to be connected with a Higher Power.  Only then can I accomplish any good thing.
  2. Systems
    I am so grateful that I have set up systems in my home office and in my business to take as much work out of the equation as much as possible.  There are still times when I recreate the wheel.  There are lots of times I find myself working out the kinks.  Once that creative and wonderful work is done, having products and services delivered and duplicated automatically lifts a huge burden off my shoulders.  Being organized and knowing exactly where things are helps, too.
  3. Support
    So many wonderful people in my life are supporting me.  When I look around and count how much they do and help, I am overwhelmed with gratitude.  My husband, my family, my kids’ schools, my neighbors, my church family, my work colleagues, my clients, my coaches, my friends, and the list goes on and on.  It is also very important to have a back up plan, and a back up to the back up, just in case.

I appreciate how much these aspects of my life sustain my ability to juggle so much and actually enjoy it.  I can grow in each of these areas in a huge way.  There is so much that I can improve.  For now, I am happy that I have the luxury of being able to work from home and also be present for my loved ones.

If you’d like to learn more about getting set up to work from home, or to bring more harmony into your life as you care for your family, please enter you name and email at the upper right corner of the page.  I look forward to staying in touch with you and supporting your growth as a person and as a parent.

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