Motherhood is a Crucible

Posted on September 29, 2014 by Present Parent Training

Motherhood is a CrucibleMotherhood is a Crucible

I am so grateful that we finally had a break in the weather.  It was 100-110 degrees recently.  And today it was 90 degrees.  Woohoo!  Enduring 100+ degree heat made sitting in 90 degrees seem so much cooler, even a pleasure.

That’s how it is with being a mom and having the Mommy Advantage.  You can experience the intensity of being a mom:  juggling children, relationships, household, money, mission, and more.  It will seem hot, intense, and exhausting but in the heat of that experience, you grow and expand.  You learn how to handle your life because your little ones are counting on you to do so.  So you do it.  It’s not always pretty with a bow on top, but it gets done.  And you realize you CAN do it.  Those intense experiences of motherhood are exactly what equip you to handle regular challenges as if they were nothing.

Today make it a point to remember your Mommy Advantage and appreciate all the stressors, I mean blessings in disguise, that you are getting as a result of raising your kids while simultaneously going after your goals and dreams.  Yes, it’s a lot of pressure.  I call it a crucible.

As I say in my #1 best selling book, The Mommy Advantage:  How Having Kids Can Make You Happier, Healther and Wealthier, motherhood is not a shortcut.  It’s a crucible.  When we learn to enjoy and be grateful for that crucible, for all that pressure and heat and intensity that we experience on a regular basis because we are mothers, probably more often than we’d like, then it makes regular, every day challenges so much easier.  Learn to smile in the fray, appreciate what you have, depend on God, and enjoy the growth that the difficult times give you.

Please let us know if you’ve experienced the Mommy Advantage crucible before.  Comment below and share your experience or advice.  Until next time, I wish you all the best in your journey.

 

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Empty Nest and Motherhood – A Mom's Wake Up Call

Posted on May 8, 2014 by Present Parent Training

My up close and personal encounter with an empty nest.  Watch the video to see what I learned from it about parenting.

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Your Valentine's Day To Do List

Posted on February 14, 2014 by Present Parent Training

Valentines ListI wanted to share a list of important activities for today!

Even if you can’t get out of the house to get the
flowers and sweets, you can send me an email
to set up a time for us to chat about YOUR GOALS
in my Brand New Private Strategy Session ($300 Value).

Inspired by the season, I am gifting this All New Session
for FREE to the first FIVE people who email me.

Do you have goals that you have been putting on the
back burner?  Would you like to grow your business
while keeping harmony at home?  Would you like to
have more fulfillment with ease?

I recently coached a client to write and publish her first
book within 3 months.  You, too, can reach your highest
goals with great life balance while raising your kids!

If you’re interested in learning more, send me that email
and then we can set up a time for your Private Strategy
Session to clarify your goals and give you momentum to
take the next step in your journey.

Are you ready to live into your greatness, for yourself
and for your family?

P.S. The All New Private Strategy sessions start February 21.
Let’s focus on YOUR goals! Email me today!

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Three Keys to Managing Your Busy, Unpredictable Life

Posted on February 4, 2014 by Present Parent Training

Three Keys to Managing Your Busy, Unpredictable LifeThe week was very unusual.  My daughter was sick and missed four days of school.  My grandma had a fall and was (is) needing care and company.  I had a full schedule including a book signing event, coaching clients, and hosting teleseminars.  I know I am not alone in my busy life, with more and more women being responsible for caring for their kids, helping out their parents, and supporting their own household financially and organizationally.

While the busyness ebbs and flows, I am grateful to have peace.  The primary factors that keep things afloat and at ease during busy, unpredictable times are these three foundational aspects of my life.

  1. God
    My life is an exercise of trust that I am loved, provided for abundantly, and of great worth.  All I have to do is yield to the perfect will of God in my life.  Even though things don’t turn out the way I expect, I know that there is divine order in my world.  This is especially true when I make mistakes.  Popular positive psychology offers great tools to use for setting goals, making changes in life, and shifting beliefs.  My ultimate resource is to be connected with a Higher Power.  Only then can I accomplish any good thing.
  2. Systems
    I am so grateful that I have set up systems in my home office and in my business to take as much work out of the equation as much as possible.  There are still times when I recreate the wheel.  There are lots of times I find myself working out the kinks.  Once that creative and wonderful work is done, having products and services delivered and duplicated automatically lifts a huge burden off my shoulders.  Being organized and knowing exactly where things are helps, too.
  3. Support
    So many wonderful people in my life are supporting me.  When I look around and count how much they do and help, I am overwhelmed with gratitude.  My husband, my family, my kids’ schools, my neighbors, my church family, my work colleagues, my clients, my coaches, my friends, and the list goes on and on.  It is also very important to have a back up plan, and a back up to the back up, just in case.

I appreciate how much these aspects of my life sustain my ability to juggle so much and actually enjoy it.  I can grow in each of these areas in a huge way.  There is so much that I can improve.  For now, I am happy that I have the luxury of being able to work from home and also be present for my loved ones.

If you’d like to learn more about getting set up to work from home, or to bring more harmony into your life as you care for your family, please enter you name and email at the upper right corner of the page.  I look forward to staying in touch with you and supporting your growth as a person and as a parent.

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Work from Home Moms at the LA Mom Expo

Posted on October 29, 2013 by Present Parent Training

Work From Home LA Mom ExpoI had the pleasure of being on the Work From Home Moms Panel at the LA Mom Expo at Calabasas, CA. In case you were not able to attend the event, I wanted to share with you the answers to my three questions about working from home.

Three Questions for Work From Home Moms

1. I want to start my own business but some of my friends and family think it’s a bad idea. Is it?

If you want to be a work from home mom, having your own business is a great idea! It has many tax benefits and can be a helpful source of income for your household. Friends and family may think it’s a bad idea because they don’t understand the advantages of being an entrepreneur and are more comfortable with the traditional career path that we were all taught…go to school, get good grades, get a job, work hard, retire and live off savings. Despite its popularity, that model is less and less viable. Having your own business gives you more options. A very important factor in the success of your business is that you are clear about why having a business is important to you. Jim Rohn said, “The bigger the why, the easier the how.” When you are clear on your important reasons why, the how will follow.

2. How can I have more balance with my work and family life?

This is a huge question for moms who are juggling so many things simultaneously. Having been a stay at home mom, I am the first to acknowledge that raising kids is a huge responsibility and a 24/7 full time job. Couple that with growing a home-based business, nurturing your relationship with your partner, managing the household, and tending to health, hobbies, and extended family and friends, and things can get overwhelming fast for work from home moms.

My top 3 tips on balance for work from home moms are:

1. Believe – If you believe balance is possible, it will be. If you believe balance is impossible, it will be. It all starts with your beliefs. Cultivate certainty that you are in the perfect flow of life and set intentions for more ease and joy as a parent.

2. Plan – Think ahead and plan proactively. Create schedules, rituals, and boundaries to support your work and play. The more systemized you are, the less thinking you have to do, and the more you can enjoy the present.

3. Focus – Set timers to get things done and give those specific tasks your undivided attention. Limit distractions, especially electronic flashes, buzzes, and tones. Be intentional about experiencing joy in whatever you are doing, whether its writing an article or being a guest at your child’s tea party.

These 3 tips are only a few of the techniques I have for creating more harmony and flow in your life. I am teaching a free teleclass on the Secrets of Life Balance on Wednesday, November 6 at 9am Pacific. You are welcome to listen in and ask questions.

3. I feel guilty when I’m working because I feel like I should be with my kids instead. How do I get rid of this guilt?

Guilt is a low energy emotion, and its purpose is to alert us to when we are out of alignment with what we want. It is a message to us to make an adjustment. Unfortunately, instead of getting the message, releasing the negative, and reconnecting with our intention and what we want, we end up wallowing in the guilt and beating ourselves up. Oh how I am ruining things. I should have done this or that. I should be there and not here. When we wallow in guilt, we are choosing to punish ourselves, believing that feeling bad will help us get what we want. Unfortunately, feeling guilty does not help. It makes things worse, and we end up sabotaging ourselves further.

To become productive at work, it is essential to accept that you feel guilty. Love yourself, love that you feel guilty, totally accept yourself and the part of you that feels bad. From that place of love, you can shift back to your intention. Let love break your hypnotic trance of guilt and bring you back to the present moment. That is when you can make a conscious choice about what you want and why. What do you want at work? What do you want with your family? Get clear on what that is, and go create it. Believe that you have been given the ability when you were given the desire. You can reach your highest goals while raising your kids. Yes, you really can.

I would love for all moms, not just work from home moms, to feel more ease and flow. Whether you are writing a book, returning to work, running the household, raising kids, or all of the above, you can have more harmony in your life.

To learn how, send me an email Sherlyn@PresentParentTraining.com, and I will send you an invitation to my upcoming teleclass. You also get a recording, so you can listen and review anytime. Until then, I wish you all the best in your journey as a parent.

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Moms Talk about the Benefits of Having Kids on Family Matters Radio

Posted on October 8, 2013 by Present Parent Training

Moms Raising Kids Mommy AdvantageMoms Talk about the Benefits of Having Kids on Family Matters Radio

I am so grateful and excited about my book, The Mommy Advantage, becoming a #1 Best Seller on Amazon.  I was recently a guest on Family Matters Radio with Wendy McDonnell to talk about the principles I teach in my book and coaching programs.

Here’s what we talked about:

How can motherhood bring out the best, the creative and more powerful side of you?

Sherlyn shares examples of how you can:

  • Take full advantage of being a mother like taking naps, singing and dancing in public, enjoying better health, more patience and resourcefulness, and growing with your family…guilt-free!
  • Attract the relationship you really want from your kids
  • Live in gratitude and joy, no matter what happens
  • Love unconditionally and appreciate yourself and others
  • Access Your potential and achieve your highest goals

Sherlyn talks about her journey of accomplishing her goals and growing into a better person after becoming a parent…something she never thought she wanted in the first place!

Listen in and enjoy focusing on your Mommy Advantage and start looking for ways you can be happier, healthier, and wealthier!  (Full 60 minute show.)

To learn more about the advantages of having kids, please type in your name and email in upper right hand corner of this page, and receive a free assessment and special report to help you increase your presence as a parent.  I look forward to hearing from you, too.  Please feel free to contact me if you have specific questions.

Thanks!  I wish you all the best in your journey in becoming the parent and person of your highest intentions.

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Two Bold Goals for a Mom Entrepreneur

Posted on September 10, 2013 by Present Parent Training

Goal Mom Entrepreneur MommyAdvantageCoverTwo Bold Goals for a Mom Entrepreneur

Are you a Mom Entrepreneur?
Have you ever wanted to do something bold?
Do you start big projects and get hung up by doubt?
Have you stepped outside your comfort zone lately?

If you want to grow, go after your goal. Five years ago, I was invited to write out my lifetime goals. It was a very meaningful experience for me. The most monumental thing that I realized was that I wanted more kids. I was very surprised by this revelation.

My First Bold Goal:  Another child!

Raising my son was extremely tiring for me. It took all of my awareness to just stay one step ahead of him. He was brilliant, creative, daring, resilient, and innocent. What would my life be like if we had another child in the family?

I didn’t know what was on the other side of that desire. I didn’t anticipate my rigorous schedule for the next few years, launching my business, running my household, attending training seminars. My husband and I crossed paths but not as often as we had imagined, considering my goal of getting pregnant. It happened, and we were hugely blessed with a little girl. She is pure unconditional love and as much as a gift to me as she is to the world. Having her has made me grow. I am so glad I had her on my list of goals.

My Second Bold Goal:  A Best Selling Book!

My goals list also included having a best-selling book. I had no idea what this was even about. I did not consider myself a writer, let alone a best selling author. I wasn’t even sure I should put it on the page, but I did anyway.

I didn’t know what was on the other side of that desire. I found that books came in all shapes and sizes, electronic, printed, audio, published, self-published, etc. It was a very full journey. I am also glad I had this as one of my goals.

Introducing My Goal/Book:  The Mommy Advantage

Next week I will sharing my book with the world. It’s called The Mommy Advantage: How Having Kids Can Make You Happier, Healthier, and Wealthier. I am excited and very, very, very uncomfortable. That’s a great sign because I know I’m growing.

Writing this book is one of the best growth experiences I’ve had as a Mom, an Entrepreneur, and as a woman with a goal. In The Mommy Advantage, I offer a growth model of parenting that transforms the challenges of having kids into an experience of expansion and manifestation.

Most books for parents tell you what to say and how to act so that your kids obey you. The Mommy Advantage focuses on you and demonstrates how innately great you already are because you are a mother. It is a tribute to mommies everywhere.

In this book, you will discover how the mere condition of having kids predisposes you for better health, wealth, and happiness. Activating your Mommy Advantage will allow you to:

• Attract the relationship and responsibility you really want from your kids
• Live in gratitude and joy no matter what happens
• Unconditionally love and appreciate yourself and others
• Release negative emotions that cause disease
• Play guilt-free and feel renewed and inspired
• Access your full potential and achieve your highest goals

Being a mommy can be extremely challenging, extremely rewarding, and everything in between. If you are ready to experience your maternal calling in a more powerful way, please contact me and let me know!  I will give you a special link to get the book plus loads of special gifts worth thousands of dollars to celebrate the October 1 launch at 10am Pacific!

I appreciate and acknowledge all the Mom Entrepreneurs who have bold goals.  Thank you for your vision.  I look forward to serving you and supporting you in your growth as a parent and as a person.

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Secrets of a Happy Morning Routine For Kids Part 4

Posted on September 2, 2013 by Present Parent Training

Happy Morning Routine for KidsSecrets of a Happy Morning Routine For Kids Part 4

Not long ago I was asked what I did to get my son to the point of waking up for school without an alarm clock and being dressed and ready for school on his own. I have written a few posts on it already, but I wanted to make sure I included what really turned things around for us. There was a time when my son and I were consistently racing to school in the morning, praying that the gate would still be open so that he could slip in and not get a tardy. It was extremely stressful for everyone involved. Not a fun way to start the day.  Thankfully we discovered several ways to create a happy morning routine for kids.

In addition to what I shared with you in Secrets of a Happy Morning Routine for Kids Parts 1-3, I wanted to give you these inner world steps to help ensure that you get what you want.

How to Create a Happy Morning Routine for Kids

Declare Your Intention
When the new school year rolled around, I reflected back on the prior year and our morning madness. It was not what I wanted for this new school year. I wanted ease, connection, joy to start our day. I decided that I would raise my standards and plan to be early every day. I boldly declared that we would be early from this day forward. So be it!

Visualize Success
Visualization is the process of seeking to change your outer world results by changing your thoughts. I imagined us leaving early, being prepared, smiling, singing, having the best mornings ever. You can use the technique of visualization to see yourself succeeding. Take a few minutes before your day gears up to create mental pictures of what you want, in the short term and long term. Visualization has healed people, created world champions, and attracted abundance. It certainly can help with a happy morning routine for kids.

Forecast Success Not Doom
During our tardy stage, I caught myself bemoaning the certainty of our being late even though there was a chance we might not. I sighed audibly and mused about the horrible attendance record that my son’s teacher would notice. I realize now that I wanted to scare him into being early. I wanted him to feel guilty for his part in our miserable morning. I was venting my disappointed feelings about myself and projecting them onto my son. But catching myself now, I stay optimistic about getting to class on time, even if it might be a close call with the bell. It’s much more healthy and relaxing to imagine success rather than failure.

Manage Your State
And speaking of relaxing, remember that you as a parent contribute a ton to the level of anxiety or ease that happens in the morning. Commit to staying positive and in a vibration of love. Stay light, smile, and keep making adjustments. Trust that you will create an awesome morning routine for kids. It may feel distant at first, but when you are unshakable in your loving support and acceptance of your child and yourself, you will accomplish your goal.

Will Every Morning Be a Happy One Because of Your Morning Routine For Kids?

If you implement even a few of the things I have shared, you can experience a major improvement in your mornings.  Does this mean that every day will be perfect?  Not quite.  Every so often, my son needs a little support in the morning. It just reminds me what a great gift he gives me by being responsible for himself.  Most days though, you will be amazed at how your kids take responsibility for themselves.  Believe those days are coming, and watch for them.

If you would like to stay in touch and receive other practical parenting tips, please fill in the box in the upper right hand corner. You will get immediate access to the Parenting Presence Assessment and a special report to give you a boost. I wish you all the best in creating a successful morning routine for kids in your home.

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Parenting 2.0 Gathering On Life Skills – August 20 in Los Angeles

Posted on July 25, 2013 by Present Parent Training

Parenting 2.0 Life Skills Los AngelesParenting 2.0 Gathering On Life Skills – August 20 in Los Angeles

Calling all Life Skills Professionals in Los Angeles, CA! You are invited to attend a Parenting 2.0 Global Presence Ambassador Dinner on August 20.

Parenting 2.0 – Over 3,000 Members in Over 60 Countries

Human development professionals around the world are recognizing the power of linking arms to better support those who are on the front lines raising humanity. It is happening online through Parenting 2.0, LinkedIn’s top ranked parenting group with over 3000 members in over 60 countries. It is also happening in person, and we want to invite you to join the party.

Los Angeles Life Skills Educators Are Invited

Commencing August 16, Global Presence Ambassadors will be hosting Regional Events around the world to unify Life Skills Educators. Are you a Life Skills Professional in the Los Angeles area? Let’s get together! The Los Angeles Regional Gathering is on Tuesday, August 20. Join Parenting 2.0’s Global Presence Ambassadors, Julia Neiman, Douglas Baker, and me for a yummy dinner and a yummy discussion. We want to know who you are, what you do, and what lights you up.

We will also share Parenting 2.0?s mission of children’s Life Skills Average one day being as appreciated as their Grade Point Average. We are on the lookout for synergy and are excited about learning from you and finding ways to collaborate. You can’t gather this many high energy visionaries and game-changers in a room without causing a few sparks to fly! Do I hear a bring it on?

How to Register

For more information and to RSVP, please contact me through this link or at (818) 392-8712. I can’t wait to meet you in person!

Be Part of Parenting 2.0’s Los Angeles Event for Life Skills Educators

When we collectively move toward a common vision of retiring the passive educational paradigm of children simply “learning what they live” and embrace the wisdom of others (namely your wisdom, you brilliant Life Skills Educators, you), we can make a seismic shift in how we raise humanity.  Are you outside the Los Angeles area?  Find out if there is a Parenting 2.0 Gathering near you.  Parenting 2.0 will be in Los Angeles on August 20. Wanna play?

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The Fourth of July and Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness

Posted on July 2, 2013 by Present Parent Training

The Fourth of July is coming up, and I’m feeling patriotic. From the cute recitation of the Pledge of Allegiance by my daughter’s preschool class to our church and children’s choir concert entitled “One Nation Under God”, life just seems very red, white, and blue, in a good way. Three of our friends recently became United States citizens which reminded me that I automatically have something that others work hard to get. As United States citizens, my family and I have so much to be grateful for.

Life. Liberty. The pursuit of happiness. Life is so good in the United States compared to other conditions in the world that all we really do is spend time in the pursuit of happiness. What a blessing!

Don’t get me wrong. There are still ways that our country can improve. As long as we have humans in the United States, we will have room for development. For now, let’s appreciate what our nation, founded on a creed, affords us.

Life – If we are alive at this moment, we are meant to be here. We have been given a certain amount of time on this planet to accomplish something. Every day is an opportunity to accomplish it. What I learned recently was that we are naturally living our life purpose, sometimes less consciously than we’d like, but nonetheless, we are living it. That was comforting. If you are feeling unfulfilled, it is a signal to get clear about your purpose and message that you have been sent here to give. As you go about living it even more fully, you will enjoy life more and more. I am so grateful to be speaking and coaching on parenting and personal growth. It’s what I’m passionate about. If you’re not entirely clear about your purpose, passion, or message, let’s chat!

Liberty – Imagine losing your freedom of speech, religion, etc. For as much as we may fuss about being monitored or not being able to fully express ourselves, we have great liberty to do so. Use your liberty to be trust-worthy and responsible in all matters. Do your best, even when no one is watching. We might as well be a living example of it because our kids are observing and learning from us all the time.

Pursuit of Happiness – The word “happiness” comes from the same root as “happening” or “happenstance”. It is based on events that happen in your life. If you find yourself looking for more happiness, recognize that it is not about what happens to you, it is about how you respond to your life. Your happiness starts with you, not with your kids, your partner, your job, your clients, or anything external. It is an internal shift. Generate happiness, and it will be chasing you instead of the other way around.

This Fourth of July is a commemoration of many gifts we have received: life, liberty, happiness, and many others. Those gifts were given by our nation’s founders and their families, by our protectors, by our allies, and many others. There is so much to be grateful for. Take a moment to remember what you are grateful for and talk with your kids about it. Make this a memorable and meaningful Fourth of July, and please comment below and share about your experiences.

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